Not So Normal Parenting | Enneagram, Myers Briggs, Personality, Neurodivergence, Emotional Intelligence

32 | Got Impulsive or Scattered Kids? Top Proven Tips From ADHD Experts

I am so thrilled to have Dr. Brandon, pediatrician and founder of Colorado Kid's Pediatrics, to chat about how traits like social awkwardness, anxiety, defiance, OCD, homework struggles or impulsivity could be symptoms of ADHD.
 
This episode will be beyond helpful if you have a child that is exhibiting any of these traits: Many parents don't realize that all of these behaviors can be symptoms of ADD or ADHD which are on the rise due to all the stimulation children are experiencing in this generation of screens. In this episode we talk about:
 
Common trends Symptoms and how to get a diagnosis
Treatment, including:
parenting strategies,
diet,
acupuncture and acupressure,
medications and
personality factors like being an SP or and P type as well as a child with introverted sensing, introverted feeling or introverted intuition and a tendency to wander off inside their mind.
 
Dr. Brandon is founder of Colorado Kid's Pediatrics and Trekwise which is an integrated approach to behavioral health with quick and efficient telehealth sessions and affordable cost sharing.
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31. INTJ Enneagram Type 1 Mom and ENFP Type 7 Daughter: Parenting Your Opposite

In this eye-opening episode, we delve into the dynamic world of an INTJ Type 1 mother raising her free-spirited ENFP Type 7 daughter. With a focus on the contrasts and complements between the thinking and feeling brains, we explore how these personality types uniquely influence their parenting and child-rearing experiences. Shana, an INTJ mother known for her structured approach and keen sense of order, shares her personal journey towards understanding and embracing her daughter Savannah's exuberant and spontaneous ENFP personality. This episode sheds light on the challenges and triumphs of letting her free-spirited child learn valuable life lessons through experience, while also emphasizing the importance of parental self-awareness in fostering a nurturing environment for vastly different personalities.
 
Gain insights into:
Balancing Thinking and Feeling: Strategies for integrating a rational, organized approach with a need for emotional and creative expression, ensuring both mother and daughter thrive.
 
Embracing Free-Spirited Learning: How the mother has learned to loosen the reins and allow her daughter the freedom to explore the world, make mistakes, and grow from them in her own unique way.
 
Parental Self-Awareness: The crucial role of self-reflection in parenting, especially when dealing with personality types that starkly contrast with one's own. Shana discusses how understanding her own biases and limitations has been key to her growth as a parent.
 
Navigating Opposite Characteristics: A deep dive into the day-to-day interactions and long-term planning that come with managing differing needs and desires, highlighting both the struggles and the beautiful moments of connection.
 
Join us for a heartfelt and practical conversation that not only highlights the complexities of such diverse personality combinations but also provides real-world advice for parents facing similar challenges. Whether you’re an INTJ, ENFP, or any other personality type, this episode offers valuable lessons on patience, understanding, and love in the face of differences.
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30. Screens and Your Child's Mental Health: Tips for Tempering Technology

Today’s episode tackles the critical issue of smartphone use and excessive screen time among children, specifically focusing on Generation Z, born between 1997 and 2012. As a parent to two "Zoomers," the host shares personal insights and expert research to confront the rising mental health challenges faced by today's youth. This discussion will cover:
Impact on Brain Development: Highlighting how screen time can negatively affect the frontal cortex of children's brains, impairing impulse control and mirroring the effects seen in substance addiction.
Social and Emotional Consequences: Examining the decline in face-to-face interactions among children, which contributes to increased feelings of loneliness and depression, as personal connections are replaced by digital interactions.
The Addictive Nature of Screens: Discussing the need for genuine real-life connections and addressing the compelling allure of screens that often distract from these vital interactions.
Responsible Screen Use: Offering strategies to help parents develop plans where technology supports developmental goals rather than detracts from them. This includes setting boundaries and being proactive about screen time management.
Practical Measures and Support: Providing actionable tips and resources to help parents create a balanced digital environment in their homes. This support aims to mitigate the adverse effects of screen time while promoting beneficial developmental and social activities.
Drawing insights from Jonathan Haidt’s "The Anxious Generation," this episode serves as a call to action for parents to engage deeply with their children’s digital habits and help foster a healthier, more balanced approach to technology use. Whether dealing with a young child’s first foray into digital devices or managing a teenager’s screen habits, this episode offers valuable guidance and support for navigating the challenges of the digital age.
 
Enable Parental Controls:
Activate parental controls on devices to restrict access to age-inappropriate content and apps.
Use settings to prevent in-app purchases and downloads without parental approval.
Set Up Content Filters:
Configure content filters on home Wi-Fi routers to block inappropriate websites and limit screen time across all connected devices.
Disable Notifications:
Turn off non-essential notifications to minimize distractions and reduce the compulsion to check the device frequently.
Enable Built-In Device Features:
Apple Screen Time: Provides insights into usage, allows for setting app limits, and offers Downtime scheduling.
Google Family Link: Manages screen time, approves app downloads, and sets device bedtime.
Create a Family Media Plan:
Develop a written agreement that outlines when, where, and how screens can be used. The American Academy of Pediatrics offers a customizable family media plan tool.
Enable blue light filters or "Night Mode" to reduce eye strain and improve sleep quality by decreasing exposure to blue light before bedtime.
Use Screen Time Management Apps:
Qustodio: Monitors screen time, blocks inappropriate content, and provides detailed reports.
OurPact: Allows parents to schedule screen time, block apps, and set daily limits.
Screen Time: Tracks usage, sets time limits, and rewards children for completing chores or homework.
Parental Control Apps:
Net Nanny: Filters content, monitors social media, and sets screen time limits.
Bark: Monitors text messages, emails, and social media for signs of cyberbullying and other issues.
Norton Family: Tracks online activity, sets time limits, and provides location tracking.
Educational Apps:
Khan Academy: Offers educational content in various subjects, encouraging productive screen use.
Duolingo: Helps kids learn new languages in a fun, engaging way.
Focus and Productivity Apps:
Forest: Encourages focus by growing a virtual tree while the app is open and in use for productive tasks.
Stay Focused: Blocks distracting apps and websites to help children stay on task.
Device Settings and Safeguards
 
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29. Master the Morning Routine: Tips for a Smooth Back to School Transition

 
In this episode, we dive deep into the back-to-school season, a time both exciting and daunting for parents and children alike. As some families have already begun the new academic year, the focus shifts to establishing a productive morning routine—one that sets the tone for a successful day ahead.
Benjamin Franklin famously said, "By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail." This wisdom underscores our discussion as we explore practical strategies to help your family avoid morning chaos and start the day with positivity and purpose. We cover:
Conducting a Family Meeting: How to effectively discuss the new school year and morning routines.
Embracing Emotions: Acknowledging the sadness of summer ending while fostering excitement for new beginnings.
Highlighting the Positives: Sharing the exciting aspects of starting a new school year.
Creating a Collaborative Routine: Working together to establish clear, effective morning habits.
Inspiring Morning Motivation: Encouraging kids to rise and shine with enthusiasm.
From the emotional impact of summer's end to the nuts and bolts of a streamlined morning routine, we provide you with all the tools you need. This episode is filled with tips, from setting up a visual schedule to positive reinforcement techniques, ensuring your children feel prepared and motivated.
Join us as we help you transform your family's morning routine from dreaded to delightful, ensuring every school day starts on the right foot. Whether you're adjusting to school routines or seeking a mid-semester refresh, this episode is your go-to resource for fostering harmony and efficiency each morning.
Alarm Clock List
Philips Wake-Up Light Alarm Clock • Features: Simulates a sunrise with gradually increasing light, plays natural sounds or FM radio, and has a sunset fading nightlight for bedtime. • Popular Model: Philips SmartSleep HF3520/60
Hatch Restore • Features: Combines a sunrise alarm, sound machine, and mood lighting in one. It allows you to customize your wake-up routine with different sounds, lights, and even guided meditations. • Popular Model: Hatch Restore
Lumie Bodyclock • Features: Offers a sunrise and sunset simulation, plays natural sounds, and has a dimmable bedside light. • Popular Model: Lumie Bodyclock Shine 300
iHome Bluetooth Alarm Clock • Features: Plays music via Bluetooth from your device, includes a color-changing LED light, dual alarms, and a USB charging port. • Popular Model: iHome iBT29BC Bluetooth Color Changing Dual Alarm Clock
LittleHippo Mella Ready to Rise Children’s Trainer • Features: Designed for kids, it has a color-changing nightlight, sleep sound machine, and wake-up music. It teaches children when it’s time to get up using lights and facial expressions. • Popular Model: LittleHippo Mella
Emerson SmartSet Alarm Clock • Features: Digital alarm clock with Bluetooth speaker, USB charging, FM radio, and customizable LED lights. • Popular Model: Emerson SmartSet ER100301
JBL Horizon Bluetooth Alarm Clock • Features: Features an LED ambient light, Bluetooth streaming, FM radio, dual alarms, and USB charging ports. • Popular Model: JBL Horizon
Mirari OK to Wake! Alarm Clock & Night-Light • Features: This clock is popular with young children and changes color to signal when it’s time to wake up. It also plays fun sounds and has a nightlight feature. • Popular Model: Mirari OK to Wake!
Lenovo Smart Clock Essential • Features: A smart alarm clock with Google Assistant, it plays music, controls smart home devices, and includes an LED light. • Popular Model: Lenovo Smart Clock Essential
Homedics SoundSpa Recharged Alarm Clock • Features: Combines a sound machine with an alarm clock, FM radio, and mood lighting. • Popular Model: Homedics SoundSpa Recharged These alarm clocks offer a variety of features to make waking up easier, whether it’s through gradual light, music, or customizable wake-up routines.
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28. INFJ Human, Enneagram Type 3: Author Elizabeth Watkins, Highly Sensitive and High Achieving Kids

INFJ’s are one of the rarest types representing less than 1% of the population. Today my interview is with Elizabeth Reed Watkins who just published a memoir of her life growing up in Maine entitled the Maine Thing. We will discuss how she parents her four very different kids and she gives advice for parents with an INFJ child. She is also an Enneagram Type 3, so this episode will resonate with all the over achievers out there as well. Going back through her journey we talk about vivid dreams, imagination, friendships, sports, learning, deep emotional struggles and balancing her high ideals and need to achieve with the need to stay grounded. Stay tuned to the end because we have a mini coaching session to help all the over achievers out there, and I am one of them, learn to be easier on themselves. In true INFJ style, Elizabeth is truly vulnerable and authentic in this interview. Here are five main takeaways:
 
Encourage Imagination and don’t accuse them of lying
Let them daydream and have time to recharge
Realize they are an introvert and highly sensitive person and help them with coping strategies
Choose their activities carefully; Individual sports may be better for them than team sports
Pay attention to their activity level because overachieving can be a red flag
 
I just worked with parents who were looking at their ISTP Enneagram Type 8 lion daughter with a distorted lens. They were seeing her leadership capabilities and determination as demanding, her ability to problem solve as manipulation and they were expecting her to be a rule follower like her brother rather than an independent thinker. Connection and Control are the two most important needs for any child. They just purchased my Thrive program so they can reframe the way they see and work with their kids and have more peace in their home. You can take the first step by going to WendyGossett.com and taking my free child temperament test for one of your kids. I evaluate the results myself which is what sets it apart from other tests. If you want to strengthen your family connections, I know I can help!
 
Elizabeth’s book: https://www.elizabethreedwatkins.com/
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27. Should My Child Go To College? INFJ, Emma B. Perez, Career Coach Talks About Today's Current Landscape

Do you have a child who is facing college in the next few years or a child who has dropped out? Many students drop out of college early because they weren’t ready. Maybe you know that the classroom is not your child’s happy place or your child hasn’t done their best in school. This episode discusses how college is not the only path to consider for your child’s future. Sometimes practical lion types and other perceiving free-spirited, creative or neurodivergent types prefer non-traditional paths. Episode 2 talks about the four people patterns and my last two episodes have been about type 7’s who tend to have multiple interests and may have ADHD or similar tendencies.
A job is just one type of income stream out of 8 that you and your soon to be adult child can consider. Not only that but the job landscape is changing at a rapid speed. There will be jobs available when they graduate from college that don’t exist when they graduate from High School.
Find out the two main ways young adults approach this major life transition and how you can help them. If you are wondering how to find the right educational path for your child, tune into this episode where I interview Emma B. Perez career coach, author of What’s the Point of School and creator of LifeQuest which is a gamified program to take your child from undecided to excited. Before we start this episode I want to remind you that the first step is to take my free child temperament test at WendyGossett.com and schedule a free chat so we can talk about your child’s result. I evaluate the test personally which is what sets it apart from other free tests on the internet.
Contact Emma B. Perez at: https://emmabperez.com
https://lifequestconsulting.ca
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26. Enneagram Type 7 April Fallon on Parenting 4 Adopted Kids. Enneagram Types 9, 7 4 and 3.

April Fallon is host of the Adoption Now podcast. She and her husband Noah, adopted four kids from birth, AJ, Lilly, Vivvy and Malia. In this episode she talks about parenting her kids as a type 7 and how she has had to adjust her parenting based on her kids unique needs. She wondered what behaviors were trauma related and what was personality. She talks about how knowing their type has helped her finally relax and know her kids love her. She talks about spending three years serving in Africa and how her inspiration to adopt started very early in her life. We talk about gender roles, attachment, emotional intelligence and the adoption process.
Adoption Now podcast
 
https://adoptionnowpodcast.com/
 
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25. Restlessness, Escapism FOMO and Feelings of Inadequacy. Overcome Enneagram Type 7 Struggles

In this episode, we dive into the vibrant Type 7 personality, also known as The Enthusiast or "the straw that stirs the drink" Type 7s are characterized by their exuberance and ability to juggle multiple interests, yet they often face challenges with escapism, FOMO (fear of missing out), and feelings of isolation,  inadequeacy, exhaustion and frustration.
This episode is full of practical strategies for Type 7s to reframe their thoughts and navigate these emotions. Whether you're a Type 7 yourself, in a relationship with one, or parenting a spirited child, this episode offers insights on fostering deeper connections, managing overwhelm, and finding balance between spontaneity and introspection.
Discover how Type 7s can cultivate authenticity by embracing their true feelings and learning to savor the present moment. Drawing inspiration from characters like Moana and Tigger, Wendy shares how these personalities embody Type 7 traits and offer lessons in personal growth.
Tune in for personal anecdotes, practical tips, and inspiring stories that empower you on your Enneagram journey. Whether you're new to the Enneagram or seeking deeper insights into Type 7 dynamics, this episode promises to enrich your understanding and encourage growth in embracing your unique personality traits.
Don't miss out on this enlightening conversation celebrating the strengths and challenges of Type 7s, offering invaluable wisdom for navigating life with boundless energy and a thirst for new experiences.
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24. Anxiety, Insecurity and Indecision. Overcome Enneagram Type 6, the Loyal Skeptic, Struggles

In this episode, we explore Enneagram Type 6, often called the Loyalist or the Loyal Skeptic. Type 6s, part of the head center, are concerned with safety and security, often struggling with fear and anxiety. We discuss five common thought patterns they face: Anxiety, Indecision, Insecurity, Distrust, and Overwhelm.
Key Highlights:
Anxiety: Overthinking worst-case scenarios is common for Type 6s. Examples include Mike Wazowski from Monsters, Inc. and Marlin from Finding Nemo. Strategies to cope include facing fears directly, using grounding techniques, and practicing reality checking.
Indecision: Chronic second-guessing affects Type 6s, who often prioritize others' happiness over their own choices. Focus on positive outcomes and learning from decisions can help.
Insecurity: Seeking constant reassurance and feeling inadequate is typical. Woody from Toy Story illustrates this. Self-compassion and sharing insecurities with trusted friends are vital.
Distrust: Difficulty trusting themselves and others can lead to paranoia. Phobic and counterphobic subtypes show different behaviors. Encouraging small steps and clear communication helps build trust.
Overwhelm: Anxiety can lead to paralysis and inaction. Inside Out's Riley and Anna from Frozen 2 show this. Calming strategies and focusing on small, actionable steps are effective.
Practical Tips:
Reframe anxious thoughts by confronting fears.
Build decision-making confidence by celebrating small victories.
Address insecurity with self-compassion and support from friends.
Cultivate trust gradually with clear boundaries.
Manage overwhelm with grounding techniques and incremental actions.
Join us for insights on Type 6, whether you are one, love one, or parent one, and learn how to manage and transform these thought patterns effectively.
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23. The Private, Socially Resistant, Introverted Enneagram Type 5: Autism Spectrum or Personality?

In this episode, we dive into Enneagram Type 5, known as "The Investigator," exploring their unique traits and challenges. Whether you're parenting a Type 5 or are one yourself, you'll relate to their deep introspection and desire for knowledge, often likened to feeling like a unicorn in a world of more outgoing personalities. Type 5s are intensely private and introverted, preferring solitary activities to conserve their emotional and intellectual resources.
We discuss their core struggle, termed Avarice, which isn't about greed but rather a fear of depletion—be it emotional, energetic, or informational. This fear manifests as a reluctance to engage fully in social settings or to share their thoughts and feelings openly. Understanding these dynamics is crucial for reframing their top negative thoughts, such as fear of incompetence and distrust of the outside world, into more constructive emotions and actions.
Join us as we explore how neurodivergence, including potential links to the autism spectrum, can influence the Type 5 experience. We also touch on strategies for parenting and supporting Type 5 individuals, emphasizing the importance of respecting their need for privacy while gently encouraging social interaction.
For a deeper dive, check out Episode 18 on Transforming Your Thoughts, which complements this discussion on understanding and fostering growth through the Enneagram's insights into unconscious thought patterns.
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