Not So Normal Parenting | Enneagram, Myers Briggs, Personality, Neurodivergence, Emotional Intelligence

45 | Are Your Kids Acting Entitled? 5 Parenting Strategies That Work

Does your teen claim they’re the last person on earth with an iPhone 12? Or maybe your younger child is begging for a Barbie dreamhouse with a party room and pool while you’re still saving for a dishwasher that works. Entitlement can sneak into our homes, especially during the holidays, but there’s hope!
In this episode, we’ll explore 5 practical ways to address entitlement in kids. From getting them involved in chores to fostering gratitude, we’ll discuss how to redirect their focus from “I deserve” to “I appreciate.” Plus, we’ll tackle the tricky "But everyone has one!" conversation with humor and grace.
If you’re tired of the “I want it now” attitude, tune in to learn how to cultivate responsibility, generosity, and contentment in your kids this holiday season.
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Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.
Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.
Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!
 

44 | Complete Holiday Gift Guide For Every Enneagram Type

The holidays are a season of gratitude and connection, and finding the perfect gift for your loved ones can make it even more special. But what if you could tailor your gifts to reflect the unique personality of each person? In this episode, we break down the perfect gift ideas for every Enneagram type—both adults and kids—so you can give with intention and thoughtfulness.
From the practical, high-quality picks that Type 1s love to the adventurous and joyful surprises perfect for Type 7s, we’ll help you match each gift with the qualities that make each type shine. Plus, discover the joy of a fun family activity: the Domino Chain Reaction Challenge—a creative and interactive game to bring everyone together this holiday season.
Join in for ideas that spark joy, build connection, and truly celebrate the people you love.
Listen now for a gift guide that will make your holiday shopping meaningful, memorable, and stress-free!
Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.
 
Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.
 
Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!
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43 | How to Value the Quality of Every Enneagram Type

This Thanksgiving season, let’s pause to recognize and celebrate the unique qualities that each Enneagram type brings to our lives. Inspired by expert insights, we’ll explore how appreciating specific traits in your loved ones can deepen connections and strengthen family bonds. From the wisdom of Type 5s to the joy of Type 7s, you’ll discover how these qualities shape the world for the better. Plus, I’ll share a fun and creative family activity—The Turkey in Disguise Game—that’s perfect for bringing everyone together for some laughter and creativity this holiday season. Join me for a thoughtful episode that will help you see the beauty in those around you. Grab a copy of this list by emailing me at wendy@wendygossett.com.
Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.
 
Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.
 
Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!
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42 | Overcome Holiday Overwhelm. Intentional Focus for Every Enneagram Type

Overcome the holiday hustle with intentional focus tailored to your Enneagram type! In this episode, we kick off a six-part holiday series filled with lighthearted lists and meaningful activities for all the Enneagram types. You'll discover how to avoid holiday traps, embrace your unique gifts, and connect with the deeper meaning of the season. Plus, every type is matched with a famous Christmas song to help you stay grounded, inspired, and intentional throughout the holidays. Whether you're a busy Type 3 Achiever, a generous Type 2 Helper, or a reflective Type 4 Individualist, there's something here for everyone. Tune in for practical tips, family-friendly ideas, and a creative activity to bring holiday cheer to your neighborhood!
 
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Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.
 
Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.
 
Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!
Website: Wendy Gossett.com
Get FREE resources on my website: https://wendygossett.com/category/resources/ or email me at WendyGossett.com
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41 | Feeling Unfulfilled? The 1-on-1 Sexual Instinct and the Search for Meaningful Connection

In today’s episode, we are exploring the 1-on-1 sexual instinct and how it shapes our relationships, desires, and even our personal growth. Many of us experience an intense need for deep, one-on-one connections, but few realize how much this instinct impacts not just our romantic lives but all areas of connection. Whether you're wondering why you crave intense relationships, struggle when the ‘honeymoon phase’ ends, or want to better understand your own instinctual needs, this episode is for you. Stay tuned to learn about the types that become countertypes due to this powerful instinct, and discover practical steps to find fulfillment beyond just romance.
Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector. Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.
 
Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.
 
Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!
Take my FREE child temperament test: https://wendygossett.com/child-inner-drive-assessment-product/
Website: Wendy Gossett.com Get FREE resources on my website: https://wendygossett.com/category/resources/ or email me at WendyGossett.com
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Book: Your Child's Inner Drive:Parenting by Personality from Toddlers to Teens on Amazon or  https://wendygossett.com/product/your-childs-inner-drive-parenting-by-personality-for-toddlers-to-teens/
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40 | How Do Status and Community Drive the Enneagram Social Instinct

Wendy Gossett helps parents understand their children by using temperament psychology and neuroscience. She has over 10,000 hours of experience in education, both in the classroom and corporate sector.
Even though she holds a Master’s degree in education, she struggled to understand her neurodivergent and oppositional kids.  Inspired by her experience using Myers Briggs and the Enneagram with business teams, she spent over a decade researching temperament pattens to help family teams. She is a best-selling author and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast.
Her podcast is entitled Not So Normal Parenting because not only are she and her kids neurodivergent but some of her life experiences, such as driving off a cliff her wedding night and going viral for embarrassing her seventeen-year old son by dancing on a snowy and jammed interstate, fall into that category. In addition to being talked about by Hoda Kotb, the BackStreet Boys, and Princess Kate, even U2 singer Bono mentioned the incident in his autobiography.
 
Because Wendy herself has struggled as a helicopter parent, a cranky parent and an embarrassing parent, she wants to help other parents struggle……..a little bit less!
In this episode, we continue our series on the Enneagram's instinctual subtypes by focusing on the social instinct—the drive that leads us to connect, belong, and find our place in the world. Social types bring a unique energy to relationships, excelling at creating harmonious environments, whether organizing family events or fostering friendships. We'll explore how to identify social tendencies in yourself, your partner, or your children and understand how this instinct can enrich relationships.
Plus, learn why some Enneagram types with this instinct may not fit the typical descriptions and discover the importance of balancing the social drive with other instincts. Listen in to gain a fresh perspective on the social instinct and its powerful influence on your relationships and sense of self.
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39 | 3 Enneagram Instincts: Introducing Self Preservation and It's BFF; Anxiety

Uncover a new layer of the Enneagram as we dive into the incredibly impactful world of the instinctual subtypes. In this episode, we focus on the self-preservation instinct—a survival-driven instinct that influences every part of life, from daily routines to family dynamics. Learn how self-preservation types prioritize safety, comfort, and health, and why they often feel the need to be prepared for any situation. Whether it's turning their home into a cozy sanctuary or meticulously planning for the future, self-preservation types bring a unique sense of stability to their families. We’ll explore how to recognize self-preservation tendencies in yourself, your partner, or your child, and how understanding this instinct can deepen your connections and help manage daily challenges. Plus, find out why some Enneagram types may not resonate with their usual descriptors if they have this subtype. Tune in to unlock insights that could transform your family’s dynamics.
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38 | How Productivity Make Enneagram 1's, 3's and 5's Neglect Happiness

In this episode of Not So Normal Parenting, we take a deep dive into the Competency Triad of the Enneagram, focusing on both parents who identify as Type 1 (The Perfectionist), Type 3 (The Achiever), or Type 5 (The Observer), and how to parent children with these types.
Whether you are a Type 1, 3, or 5 yourself or raising a child with these tendencies, you’ll discover how these types push emotions aside to solve problems logically, especially in relation to systems like work, family, or school. We’ll explore the 3 key ways each type strives for competency and how this impacts their approach to life and relationships.
Learn how to manage perfectionism as a Type 1 parent or help your Type 1 child embrace flexibility. Discover how to balance achievement with authenticity as a Type 3, or guide your Type 3 child to value more than just success. Finally, support your own Type 5 need for independence while fostering emotional connection, or help your Type 5 child stay emotionally engaged.
Tune in for real-life stories, practical strategies, and insights to help you and your child thrive within your unique Enneagram types.
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37 | Overly Sensitive, Impatient or Angry? 3 Remedies for Reactive Types

In this episode, we’re tackling a common struggle for many parents: reactivity—especially for those in the Enneagram reactivity triad: Types 4, 6, and 8. If you often feel frustrated or overwhelmed in those tough parenting moments, this episode is for you.
What you’ll learn today:
How to Hold Realistic Expectations for yourself and your child’s behavior.
How to Harness Your Triggers so they no longer control your reactions.
How to Heal Through Guided Thoughts, personalized for your Enneagram type.
If you’ve ever been told that you just need to be more patient, but it only makes you feel worse, this episode offers a fresh perspective. It’s not about squeezing out more patience—it’s about shifting your mindset and understanding your triggers to foster more peaceful, connected relationships with your kids. Tune in as we break down these tools and share practical mantras tailored for Types 4, 6, and 8!
 
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36. 4 Ways to Help Enneagram Reactive Types 4, 6 and 8

Welcome back to our 9-part series on the Enneagram triads! In today’s episode, we’re diving into the Reactivity Triad, which includes Types 4, 6, and 8—personalities that tend to respond to stress with emotional intensity and immediate reactions. These types externalize their feelings when they don’t get what they want or when their needs are unmet, often displaying frustration, anxiety, or anger. We’ll explore the three key aspects of how these types cope: how they process emotions outwardly, why they react so strongly, and what they seek from others through their emotional responses.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
How Type 4s express deep emotional intensity, often seeking validation and understanding from others when they feel unseen or misunderstood.
How Type 6s react with anxiety and doubt, testing loyalty and seeking reassurance in moments of insecurity or uncertainty.
How Type 8s respond with assertiveness and anger, seeking strength and control in their environment to avoid feeling vulnerable.
We’ll also share four practical strategies to help you support your reactive child and navigate their emotional outbursts:
Acknowledge their feelings
Provide reassurance or understanding
Teach emotional regulation
Maintain your own calm presence
Join us as we uncover how these intense emotional reactions can be understood and managed, allowing for deeper connection and growth within the family.
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